I don’t really talk about this on the regular – more because it just hasn’t come up than that I’m hiding it – but I’m 23 years old and I live with my parents. For those of you who are new around here, it’s due to my health, and once I hopefully get into grad school we’ll reevaluate the living situation. But today it’s all about how to live at home with your parents in your twenties.
Step one: make sure you’re all on the same page and draw clear boundaries. What are your responsibilities? How do they differ from when you lived at home as a teenager? Do you need to check in if you’re staying out past 10?
Step two: give some time for new routines and adjustments. It’s going to take some time for everyone to adjust. Your parents may automatically act like they used to because it is hard to get out of those habits, so remind yourself to just let everyone get settled.
Step three: address individual concerns as they pop up appropriately. Try not to get overwhelmed with frustration and to calmly address them. After all, if you want to be treated like an adult, act like one.
Step four: remember that they are your parents and not your roommates. At the end of the day, there will be things that none of you want to talk about or see. Keep it appropriate for your relationship, even if it is a little different than it was before.
Step five: try to have some breaks from each other on a regular basis. Not only will you probably be craving a parent-free zone, they probably will want a break from you, too! After all, you are kind of cramping their style. Breaks will make the time you spend together better.